I have had my share of twists in life and there are ones that I just won’t talk about. Mostly because they are too emotional or maybe they are just too private. One happened about 9 months ago that really changed how I look at things and I realized that sometimes the best laid plans go awry, in the best way possible.
I have talked about my daughter graduating two years early on this blog already. Several times in fact but this time I want to talk about how I am dealing with it now that it is over. Well, the graduating part is over. The other part is just beginning.
For those that may be new to the blog I will do a little recap so you will know what I am talking about. If you read this blog regularly you already know this story, so you have my permission to skip down to what we are doing now.
When my daughter was born I had her whole life mapped out in a matter of hours. She would go to school, make lots of friends, join a lot of clubs, go to high school, attend her first dance, and then I would watch her walk across the stage in that cap and gown to get her diploma. I imagined me clapping and smiling saying “That’s my daughter!” as she moved her tassel from one side to the next. I have learned though that life can mess up even the best well laid plans.
What I didn’t expect or even think about was Dakotah being smart, I mean really smart. She whizzed through her classes all through school and then was accepted into the coveted Agriculture program at North Harford. Things were good in 9th grade but in 10th grade Dakotah had a full schedule and a few AP and Honor classes. Around January of this year I got a call from the guidance counselor telling me that they couldn’t do anything more for Dakotah. I was like Uh?
Dakotah was flying through her classes and finishing well before the other students. Of course, she was done and she thought she should be able to do what she wanted because she was finished. However, when she would bring out a book or something to write in the other students would want to also and couldn’t understand why Dakotah was allowed and they weren’t. This started disrupting class and the teachers finally told her she couldn’t do that anymore which of course upset her because what was she supposed to do for a half hour?
The school didn’t know what else to do and they suggested I pull her out and let her finish her credits at the college to get her diploma. I thought this meant a GED and was like “Um, no.” But after much discussion I realized this meant she was actually graduating and getting her diploma. I went into a tailspin after that because diploma meant college. College meant right now. I thought I had two more years. I think my exact thoughts were “This really sucks.” My dream of her walking the stage were over and now it was all about college.
Yes, my hopes and dreams were shattered but in the end I realized that was what they were. MY hopes, MY dreams. They weren’t Dakotah’s. I think as parents we project our hopes and dreams onto our children and in the end that is not very fair.
We went to our first college open house a few weeks ago and I am rooting for Dakotah to get in. It is her first choice school and I think she will blossom and grow there. I let my baby take her own path and in the end I have seen so much joy.
The joy of watching her grow into a confident, beautiful young woman that has her whole life ahead of her to do wonderful things. The joy of watching her get excited about her future and about all the things she wants to do. Travel, charity work, and in the end open her own book store.
If I had made her stay on the path I felt she should take I would have missed all of this. The unexpected twist that made me feel the world was over was a twist that ended up being perfect in the end.
Now I just enjoy each step she takes and try to spend as much time with her as I can before she leaves. I make plans still, but now they are plans to spend time together and not plans about her future. Her future is in her own hands and I am pretty confident she has it covered. And if she doesn’t, she knows I will still hold them to get her through.
I found out that Maleficent is coming out on Blu-ray™ on November 4th 2014. I am pretty excited about that. Maleficent is my girls’ favorite “villain” and I am already planning a girls’ night. I am thinking pizza, cupcakes, and the movie. It will be a great way to make one more memory.
For those of you that have been under a rock (no offense meant. I am a hermit and never leave the house. There are things I find out about every day) and have never heard of Maleficent I can tell you it is a great movie.
I love the fact that is shows kids that there are two sides to every story. That maybe, just maybe Maleficent wasn’t meant to be the evil being we see in Sleeping Beauty. That circumstances made her that way. That is so true in real life. We see a grouchy, mean, or self centered person and just automatically think they are bad. However, it could be life that made them that way. We don’t know what another person has been through or is going through. We should try to find out before passing judgment.
I think I need to stop now, I am going off on another subject altogether. Really though, you should pick up a copy of Maleficent and make it a great family night. You never know when a twist may come up and things will change. I have learned that first hand and sometimes, it is the twist that changes how you see everything.
Explore the untold story of Disney’s most iconic villain in this wickedly fun twist on the classic Sleeping Beauty. In an unforgiving mood after a neighboring kingdom threatens her forest, Maleficent (Angelina Jolie) places an irrevocable curse on the king’s newborn daughter, the Princess Aurora. But as the child grows, Maleficent finds herself becoming fond of the girl. And as the conflict between the two realms intensifies, Maleficent realizes that Aurora may hold the key to peace in the land. Journey beyond the fairy tale in this soaring adventure that is “visually arresting, brilliantly designed” (Andrew Barker, Variety).
Available on Blu-ray™ and Digital HD November 4th 2014. Also, available on Disney Movies Anywhere.
The tale you know, the story you don’t. Experience this wickedly fun twist on the classic Sleeping Beauty tale as Disney’s most iconic villain is brought to life like never before. Angelina Jolie IS Maleficent.
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